Open your Ears...........

I recently had met a guy and had a conversation for more than an hour. In fact, I wouldn't call it a conversation, because he was the only one doing the talk. Of course it was not a public meeting or anything in that case. It was a casual first meet and already i have decided not to talk to him any more.

Reason:He just dint have time to let me talk. There are people like this guy and i think these guys lack the basic knowledge of conversational ethics. And, i was wondering how he will maintain his personal relationship with his mom/dad/Girlfriend like this (I don't think any girl friend would have lasted for more than a day with this guy) ... And, i think the basic reason for most of our problems is this attitude:Not Listening........

At home, we don't have time to sit and talk to our parents, (btw, how many people live with their parents after marriage?) and no time for wife or husband, simply because the other party is always busy. And, absolutely no time for our children, because we talk to our children only when there is an issue or if there is any commercial demand from them that might cause you financial damage.

At work, the question of listening or not listening doesn't arise at all, as we are all engaged and immersed in our own world where everyone barge in starting from office peon to CEO without your permission, and yet you don't care about it.....And, most of us don't carry this office baggage to home so, official problem never carry much weight in our lives. But, personal problem are something different.

They have a different effect and a deep impact altogether and all of us tend to think about such personal problem over and over in our mind and the surprising part is every time you think of the problem either you will get more upset or will come up a different solution.

And, when you just sit back and think of what might have gone wrong, it all starts with not listening to or to be more precise, not having a simple communication of asking: "How was your day?What do you say about it?How are you now?" Thats it...simple

For people like me, who always try to do some analysis when ever a problem or an incident happens, out of context or normalcy, they will understand how important is to examine your life, your relationships every now and then...just like how you check your vehicle regularly to make sure you don't end up with a sudden breakdown.

I think like this: God has purposely left the ears open unlike eyes, which you can always shut, when ever you want and the purpose could be human being is being insisted by the almighty to listen to your heart, to your relationships, to people around you, to the society you belong to and to the country you live in....

 

So, just Open Your Ears and LISTEN friends.................. (Just like him :) (her?)no idea....sorry....

Contd: The Day I met Raja sir...

Hi,

I forgot to post the photograph i took with Raja sir and some of my friends were asking me for that. So, here we go guys.....Rehana with Raja sir. (And, hey this is his house and for those who have been there will know....)

Thank you Raja sir...for being with me in my Ups and Lows in the form of music.......

How young are you?

Tell me one thing, who decides the age limit to be young or to become old? I don't understand. I am 30 and does that make it necessary that you have stopped being young and now you are old...Oh..come on now, what non sense is this?

True to being a Gemini, I have always found two different sides of myself on so many occasions and that being as young as I can be at heart and behaving very matured when needed. And, I find this absolutely easy and happy to do so. Feeling young at heart gives me more courage and confidence to take risks and venture new things and my other side gives me enough of advises to go through slowly and safely. So, whats wrong in being young?

When most of the women or a men becomes successful only after 30, people here think that reaching 30 is your threshold limit and you have to just pack your baggage and move to the next compartment.No,you dont have to...For me, 30 is the age for you to explore many new things more confidently and happily, because most of the people you talk to and move with would be younger than you and it gives you more authority and a credibility you can easily move among.

When one of my friends, who is divorced after a very short commercial marriage (the marriage was arranged purely for business purpose, her dad wanted to start a business in US and he got a prospective guy (read:Managing Director) to marry his daughter, my friend. And she completed her mandatory one year and came back to India and got her divorce). And, the interesting part is now she is dating a guy who is much younger than her and almost all of our friends got excited at the news simply because her boyfriend is younger than her. When we all sat and analyzed why we girls got so excited at the news, we realized everyone wants to be young always and have young partners who can also stay young always....(Too much to ask isn't it?)

Anyways, its totally up to you to decide how you want yourself to be....Young or old or whatever...But, just remember one thing, getting younger with time is always a better option. And by now, you would have thought, why am I writing such post today? There is a flash back not so long, but cut to this morning: I was waiting for the lift in my apartment to go down, when this 14 year old boy, studying 7th standard, living opposite to my flat, came and simply asked,"Aunty, are you going down?"....Thats was it...That was enough for me to get upset for the whole day...may be for a whole week...I wanted to reply him,"I am going old"....hhrrrrr.............


 Chalo, abhi, what else he could call me....Akka?(Sister) obviously he cant, because, we are 16 yrs apart and cant call me by name, because we are not used to that name calling system yet. Now, I seriously wish I had stayed in UK for ever because I never heard any one calling anybody as Aunty....Mrs.Khan or Mrs.Rehana would have been nice and a good starter for the day and its sad that boy didn't know he would cause such a blog today.

So, the final conclusion is: Hello all, Please don't let your children above 15(14) to call people like us as Aunty/Uncle...Okay? Teach them to call  with some manners, Mr.Sharma or Varma and Mrs. Sharma or Varma....ok?I promise I will never let my 1.5 yr old daughter to call you as Aunty or Uncle...Hope you guys understand what I mean.........


(P.S: How can he call me like that yaar?:(  How young am I?shit, I am confused now.....)